Many divorcees often cite the process of separating from their husbands and wives of many years as one of the most difficult periods of their lives. While several of them often bring up the stressful events that led to the divorce or their time in court, not a lot of them discuss what happened immediately afterwards.
While you do have comfort in living independently after the court approves your divorce papers, there’s numerous tasks you must take care of now that you’re single. Adjusting to the post-divorce life is especially difficult for spouses formerly married to someone serving in the military. Knowing what obstacles lie ahead of you after the divorce may make you approach the proceedings differently.
Finding a job
A recent article published by The Atlantic highlights how military spouses struggle to make ends meet during or after their marriages. They cite a report stating that military families have twice as much difficulty staying financially stable and more than half of them are because the nonmilitary spouse is struggling to find a good job.
One of the main reasons is that military families are required to move states often, leaving little room to develop a career. While you may no longer have to worry about moving every couple of years, you may not have a sufficient resume to get you a well-paying job quickly after the separation. This is especially difficult for single mothers who had even less time to have a job during their marriage.
Finding a home
Given how often military spouses move during their marriage, they may not have as much attachment to the state they end up divorcing in. Choosing to move states is especially difficult as a parent no matter if you made the decision during or after the divorce.
If you make it known to the court that you plan on moving during the proceedings, it may affect how child custody goes since Indiana’s courts create arrangements on the child’s best interests. While moving around so much prior to the divorce may make it easier to convince the court, you are still taking your kid to live in a different state and making them go to a different school. Even with the current circumstances, it still affects how the court views the post adjustment period for the child.
If you end up having to move after the divorce so you can get a new job or to stay closer to your family, then you or your ex might need to request a change to the child custody arrangements. This becomes especially problematic when your ex no longer has to travel so much for their position.
With how much you potentially have to deal with after the separation, it is important to contact legal assistance from someone with experience in military divorce whether it is before or after the court approves of the divorce papers.